My success and impact reached greater heights when I stopped allowing the comparison devil to make my thoughts his. The old me spent countless hours obsessing over the blessings being received by others instead of focusing on my own unique journey. We are all familiar with the cliché saying, “Compare yourself only to who you were yesterday.” Allow me to be a living testimony for how true that phrase is. All the energy I poured into beating myself up for not gaining the same opportunities as other content creators, instead became the fuel for me to obtain my next goal.
Y’all know I hate being cliché right? I know you’ve seen at least 10 posts today about October signifying the last quarter of the year. Everybody is trying to get their lives right so they can be ready when 2017 hits them. Do you want to know a little secret? A couple of months ago I loathed people who did that. The progression of one date on the calendar, made you all of a sudden want to get your life right? It seemed like an overrated epiphany to me….until I had one of course. Now, October 1st is meaningful to me, with only 91 days left in the year- I am proud of my accomplishments but I know there are more goals that need to be annihilated.
When you visualize your goals, it makes them easier to obtain. A year ago when I launched my movement, #BlackMHM Black Mental Health Makeover, I envisioned eventually moving the dialogue from online to in person. Blog posts and YouTube videos were a great way to get people talking, but I wanted to connect in person. I thrive on human interaction.
When I’m confused and can’t see what is next on my path, I always ask God to send me clarity and confirmation. It can be as simple as seeing an inspirational quote on Instagram that speaks to my situation or finding $40 on a busy NYC street (yes, this has really happened to me). Regardless of the form in which God decides to send His message, I always listen and express my gratitude for the plan He has for my life. A couple of months ago, I was discouraged about the future of Don’t Die Afraid but after becoming an ambassador for AT&T’s #InspiredMobility I realized the importance of my message. My message truly is a catalyst for change and I need to own it!
Sometimes when we can’t find space for our unique talents, we feel pressured to place ourselves into boxes that don’t represent who we truly are. When participating in blogging surveys, I always felt uncomfortable because I didn’t fit into the pre-defined blogger categories of “Beauty, Entertainment, Fashion, Lifestyle, Travel, Food, Technology, or DIY.” I was forced to place a check next to “Other,” without any opportunity to write that I am an inspirational blogger.
Today I kicked off my week long birthday celebration by writing inspirational notes on brown paper bags for the homeless. #HashtagLunchbagDC is a non-profit that meets monthly to assemble sandwiches and package them with fruit and water inside of bags covered in love notes. When the lunches are complete, half are delivered to a shelter in D.C. and the remaining is distributed by volunteers who walk a mile from Gallery Place to McPherson Square giving them to anyone who wants one.
These lunches aren’t only nourishment, they are happiness. Every person I met during the distribution expressed their gratitude through words or a smile. Unbeknownst to them, I was equally as grateful for them allowing me to serve and bring an ounce of joy to their day.